The love of God is perfected in us when we ask and allow Him to bring us to the place where we truly start to do EVERYTHING out of pure humble LOVE.
This is the order, the nature and heart of the love of Christ.
Love is the fulfillment of the law and this means that when we are perfected in His love we naturally walk in obedience as those being led by His Spirit, not human distorted, wounded and broken angry, irritated emotions.
The ways and nature of God are completely opposite and contrary to the fallen fleshly ways of man and this is why it is extremely important to submit ourselves to be inwardly renewed, transformed, changed, healed, emptied out and fully delivered by the power of God.
Without His Spirit operating in us, we are stuck within ourselves.
This is the meaning of Philippians 2:12 Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.
13 For it is God who works in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure.
John 15:4 Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can you, except you abide in Me.
5 I am the vine, you are the branches: He that abides in Me, and I in him, the same brings forth much fruit: for without Me you can do nothing.
It’s important to understand that a developing child can only function and be to where the child has grown and we are all on different levels of Spiritual growth, so be where you are at and know that God’s love is always the same and constant towards you through the entire process of your Spiritual development, until as Ephesians 4 declares
13 Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.
Philippians 3:12 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if indeed I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.
13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
15 Let us therefore, as many as would be perfect, be thus minded: and if in anything you be otherwise minded, God shall reveal even this unto you.
16 Nevertheless, to what we have already attained, let us walk by the same rule, let us mind the same thing.